Pre-Marital Counselling: Why It’s Not Just for Troubled Couples

When Aanya and Kunal got engaged, everything felt like a movie montage—cake tastings, matching outfits, playlist fights (the fun kind), and endless shaadi prep reels.

Then, one evening over coffee, Aanya brought up something she’d read online about premarital counselling.

"Hey… what do you think about doing a pre-marital counselling session before the wedding?"

Kunal was skeptical and asked, "Why? Are you worried about something? I thought we were doing fine…"

"We are," she smiled, "That’s why I want to go. Think of it like a health check-up, but, for us."

He wasn’t sure what premarital counseling was and thought that it was only for couples who were already struggling?

But after a little back-and-forth, and the promise of post-session dinner date, they booked a session.

What Happened in That Session Surprised Them

They didn’t talk about fights or red flags.

Instead, they were asked simple but eye-opening questions:

• "How do you handle conflict when you’re really angry?"

• "What does money mean to each of you and how do you handle it?"

• "When conflict occurs, what helps you feel respected and supported?"

• "What are your unspoken expectations from each other?"

They learned that Kunal tends to shut down when stressed, while Aanya needs to talk things out immediately. They realized they had never really discussed how they’d split finances—or how past emotional experiences shaped their present needs.

It wasn’t therapy. It was a tuning fork—helping them find their rhythm together.

Afterwards, Aanya joked, "We spent months planning the wedding, and just one hour making sure we knew how to stay married." They both agreed; that one hour gave them more clarity, confidence, and calm than any checklist ever could.

This is one of the key benefits of premarital counselling. It opens up real conversations before miscommunication becomes a pattern. And remember, the goal is to understand, not fix.

So, Who Is It For?

Not just couples in crisis.

Not just people with "issues."

Premarital counselling is for couples who:

• Want to understand each other on a deeper level

• Are curious about how to grow together—not just in love, but in life

• Prefer proactive clarity over reactive conflict

• Want a strong, emotionally intelligent start to marriage

It’s not about what's broken—it's about building something that lasts.

Now you may wonder,

How to Prepare for Premarital Counselling?

You don’t need to prepare a list of problems. Just come with openness.

Here’s how to get the most out of your session:

• Be honest with yourself and your partner

• Be ready to explore sensitive topics—without judgment

• Choose a certified professional experienced in premarital counselling services

And yes—ask about the cost of premarital counselling beforehand so you know what to expect. Many platforms also offer flexible online premarital counselling services now.

Before you go ahead and tie the knot, ask yourself:

Have we talked about the things that really matter?

If not—don’t worry. Premarital counselling doesn’t mean something’s wrong.

It simply means you care enough to get it right.

If you’re considering online premarital counselling, you don’t have to figure it all out alone, we’re here to offer support whenever you’re ready.